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Re: Re: Do "menage a trois" can work ? |
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Rebby |
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Jun 7, 07 - 1:24 PM |
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cheri716@yahoo.com |
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I am wondering the same question myself. I have recently found out that a guy that I want to be with who is living with his gf, wants both her and me to have a relationship together. I had never really thought about having a polyamorous relationship before, and am trying to be rather open minded about it. I found out that the gf knew about his intentions for almost a month before he finally disclosed this to me.. but it seems she is the one with more problems accepting this than I.
The jealousy is definitely an issue, and I am trying to be more open towards the other girl, even though I can't deny that I am more comfortable with him than her right now. The relationship betw the guy and gf is rocky at best right now.. she feels that he is giving me more attention. But I am jealous because she is with him, 24 hrs a day/7 days a week. Neither of them work at this time. But I have my own place, and I work two jobs to pay my bills.
This is completely new ground for me. But on the other hand.. they "guy" and I also can't deny that we want to be with each other. I realize that communication is a huge factor in wether this is going to work out.. but I don't want to feel like I am the only one making an effort, and I have made a point of commenting about "why am I the Man in this relationship?" I have been 'strong' on my own for several years, and for once would like to occasionally feel like I am being taken care of, and cared for. But I've found myself being the level headed one.. trying to resolve their spats and get things done.
It doesn't help that some of my best friends are criticizing me for being willing to be in this relationship.. I guess I just need some general advice that isn't biased against poly-relationships and a sympathetic ear. |
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