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Re: three |
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Jack |
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Sep 13, 07 - 3:35 PM |
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jjrpph@rit.edu |
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I agree that the real thing to do is communicate. I would write up vows, just like for a marriage. Promise terms that everyone agree to. Then hash it out. No one else has to see it but the 3 of you. Do everything you can to make your other 2 partners feel safe. Trust is vital. Also boundaries. As strange as it may sound avoiding inmeshment opens the way to intimacy.
In a lot of ways you have an embarrassment of riches, it has been going on for 3 years and apparently working. A lot of people would envy you. But you have to like it. I'd say leave the outside world off the table for a little while and decide what the 3 of you want. Then you face that outside world with a united front.
This can work with kids if you are resolute. Gay parenting use to create outrage, now adoption agencies give them babies. |
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