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Unexpected pregnancy |
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Sally |
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Dec 21, 07 - 8:32 PM |
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sallyanner@yahoo.com |
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 sallyanner |
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Hi everyone...my name is Sally and I have been very happily married for 8 years (I am 32 and my husband Rob is 33). About two years ago we began dating a wonderful 26 yr old gal named Lauren. We both became very smitten with her and she ended up moving in with us earlier this year. Everything was so perfect...I couldn't wait to get home every night because of how much I enjoyed the life that was waiting for me there. But unfortunately, I feel like my whole world just turned upside down because Lauren hit us with the bombshell we were not expecting...she is 2 months pregnant. Originally, Rob and I had asked Lauren to move in with us because we both fell very hard for her. We loved her so much that we wanted her with us all the time...but her having Rob's baby was NOT part of our plans. Earlier in our marriage Rob and I casually discussed having a baby "eventually" but it was kind of put on the back-burner for awhile, especially when Lauren came along. We focused so much attention on her and our life with her that our own plans of a baby were kind of put on hold. And to be honest, I now find myself very bitter and resentful that she is pregnant with Rob's baby. I feel as if her arrival into our lives played a big part in Rob and I not proceeding with a baby ourselves, and now she is having his baby instead. I am realistic that I am likely putting blame on her where it isn't deserved. She is very upset too because she can see this has put all of us in a tailspin. She is such a wonderful, loving, friendly person and I don't want to feel bitter toward her...I dont want to be resentful. I love her and want to support her and be there for her, but I just dont know how. I feel like the two of them having a baby together will give them a bond that I cannot possibly share in...it is already making me feel like I am suddenly "outside" looking in. Is a three-way loving relationship capable (or likely?) of surviving when an unexpected pregnancy is thrown into the mix?
Sally |
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